I'm out today writing letters of recommendation while my juniors are heading to Silverton. Please read this page thoroughly and complete the starter and work time objectives. Thanks!
Starter: Reflect on Cathy's Workshop
Please reflect on Cathy's Conflict Resolution workshop: (See below for the picture of her notes from Tuesday!!)
I've realized that I have been pretty conflict avoidant about a conflict with one of my good friend's because I worry that it would hurt our friendship and because she has a tendency to get defensive. However, our friendship is suffering as a result of my reluctance to address the situation with her because I'm slightly resentful and she is starting to feel like I don't want to hang out with her as much. So, it's time to address it.
I can say: "I'm concerned that our friendship has felt a bit strained lately and that perhaps you are worrying that I don't want to hang out as much anymore. I realize that I've been hesitant to express a point of tension in our friendship with you and feel like I owe it to our friendship to express it. I want to first recognize that you and I have different perceptions of time and value different things at times- for instance, you tend to see time as less of a linear concept and really value being engaged and present with people in the moment. I appreciate that but I tend to value holding my time commitments with others even it means I have to cut an interaction with someone in the moment short so I'm not late, etc... There have been several instances, however, where you have either bailed on me, or kept me waiting an hour or more when we had plans, and in these moments I feel like you don't respect my time and our friendship. I know that I can be a bit type A about time, so perhaps we can figure out a way to improve our communication so that I let you know when I'm on a tight schedule and you plan ahead and let me know well in advance if you're going to be late. I'd also like you to work on not committing to plans with me unless you know you can for sure make it and won't have to bail at the last minute."
Review your Action Plan SMART goal and milestones. What do you need to work on today? Is it an actual action item? Is it developing a plan for soliciting feedback from your constituents?
Go forth and achieve that objective/milestone/task item!
If you have NOTHING to do, ask yourself WHY? You are a leader and thus must take initiative!